This evening I went out running as I have been doing each day this summer, alone on the trails in the middle of the ravine and surrounded by trees.
There, alone, I stood on an incline, watching the candy pink and orange sky dim as the sun ceded. The air was moist and heavy, and I stood there as the first drops started pattering down on my head, raising my arms over my head and tilted my face up to the gentle downpour.
I can never express in enough words how much these moments touch me. Giving me space to be at one with my thoughts - however torrentuous, tormented and melancholy they might be.
As I stood there for a moment, in a silent dance with the summer wind, suddenly I caught a whiff of a certain scent which I can only describe in how it made me feel: poignantly bereft.
It smelt almost artificial, cosmetic; as if it were a perfume belonging to someone. I opened my eyes and looked around: I was still very much alone. But as the overlaying boughs of the trees swayed in the wind awaiting the truly violent storm to break, I also spotted a park bench somehow deep within the trees. It sat there alone, almost unseen, strangely far off the path. And a whimsical thought occurred to me: perhaps there on the bench sat a ghost, waiting and waiting for the beloved who never arrived.
But even as this romantic thought crossed my mind. I took another step forward and suddenly the scent hit me again, and I closed my eyes as I had a very strong and vivid recollection. All of a sudden, in one fraction of a breath I was thrown back years to my childhood when I stood at the casket at the funeral home, wherein my mother lay.
To say that this scent is what has hinged me on to this memory is difficult to explain. There have been a myriad of odd moments when I will catch the slightest scent of this and something will trigger within me but I never know why...until I do.
And, I stood there in the rain, letting the skies cry down on me, reflecting: perhaps that's where memory lies; through my senses my five year old self relayed on a capsule to my older present self. Loss often comes at us from places we don't expect it, and at times we don't see it coming.
Tuesday, July 16, 2019
Sunday, July 14, 2019
space
I wasn't supposed to expect anything.
And yet I fell into the rabbit's hole, and did.
I don't know how to express myself here anymore. I'd fallen into a weird conundrum of taking pen to paper and writing my thoughts and feelings in a notebook, ostensibly to that one person who gave me inspiration through letting me see my words through his eyes.
I'm at this weird rocky line now where I look at this book with so many feelings - part of me isn't able to touch it again, part of me wants to throw it hard across the room and perhaps light it on fire. Part of me just wants to throw it away or rip out the pages and toss them to the wind.
So here I am. I don't know why I asked for anything for myself again. I keep making this mistake and it ends up with me hating myself for ever opening up again. Letting someone in again. Letting them hurt me again. It's a cycle isn't it? And I keep thinking that the only way to break the cycle is simply to stop doing the same thing. Which is what I had tried doing for the last several years: just not letting anyone in.
I don't know why it happens; how I let anyone in through all the armour and walls I've built up. Even now, all I want is to have a long discussion with this one person who's made his way through and discuss this very strange thing. But I can't.
Once again I'm here alone. Sitting on the doorstep waiting to be let in again.
The thing is, and I have to keep reminding myself this... we weren't promised happiness or love when we came into this world - were we? It's not expected, it's not a given. And yet we keep somehow selfishly assuming we are owed this much. These things are illusions and fleeting at best. I wasn't promised happiness, I wasn't promised love. Move on. Live on.
And yet I fell into the rabbit's hole, and did.
I don't know how to express myself here anymore. I'd fallen into a weird conundrum of taking pen to paper and writing my thoughts and feelings in a notebook, ostensibly to that one person who gave me inspiration through letting me see my words through his eyes.
I'm at this weird rocky line now where I look at this book with so many feelings - part of me isn't able to touch it again, part of me wants to throw it hard across the room and perhaps light it on fire. Part of me just wants to throw it away or rip out the pages and toss them to the wind.
So here I am. I don't know why I asked for anything for myself again. I keep making this mistake and it ends up with me hating myself for ever opening up again. Letting someone in again. Letting them hurt me again. It's a cycle isn't it? And I keep thinking that the only way to break the cycle is simply to stop doing the same thing. Which is what I had tried doing for the last several years: just not letting anyone in.
I don't know why it happens; how I let anyone in through all the armour and walls I've built up. Even now, all I want is to have a long discussion with this one person who's made his way through and discuss this very strange thing. But I can't.
Once again I'm here alone. Sitting on the doorstep waiting to be let in again.
The thing is, and I have to keep reminding myself this... we weren't promised happiness or love when we came into this world - were we? It's not expected, it's not a given. And yet we keep somehow selfishly assuming we are owed this much. These things are illusions and fleeting at best. I wasn't promised happiness, I wasn't promised love. Move on. Live on.